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Yesterday's entry
I have made my entry of yesterday private.
The main reason for making the post was, most simply, a response to abuse. I do not allow myself to be abused for other people's pleasure, political point-making, or anything else. I've come a long way to gain self-respect in my life. To not respond in some form was too close to allowing someone to batter me emotionally and not call them to account.
The points I made in the post I stand by. I have not directed anyone to any other journal, but I have represented interactions elsewhere honestly.
My main point -- that the suffering of all people is a valid concern for a feminist, not merely that of women -- I stand by. Men's suffering is not more important that women's. Women's suffering has been silenced for too long. That does not excuse or justify minimizing or dismissing the pain suffered by male victims of violence.
It is, ultimately, about people. We are not only daughters of fathers, or sisters of brothers, many of us are mothers of sons. Counteracting the societal messages that women are second-class human beings is a job in itself -- I refuse to replace it with a message that men are scum.
However, it is taking up too much of my energy emotionally. I have things I have to do that require me to be more present to the world than I have been since this started. And with it open, I keep revisiting it. I am closing it to let go, to move on. It's an act of self-care.
If you are reading this and you choose to see this as a surrender of some sort, that's okay. As far as I'm concerned, walking away from a stupid fight is smarter than staying mired in it. I've got other things to do and other people to worry about.
Comments disabled for what I think are probably obvious reasons.
The main reason for making the post was, most simply, a response to abuse. I do not allow myself to be abused for other people's pleasure, political point-making, or anything else. I've come a long way to gain self-respect in my life. To not respond in some form was too close to allowing someone to batter me emotionally and not call them to account.
The points I made in the post I stand by. I have not directed anyone to any other journal, but I have represented interactions elsewhere honestly.
My main point -- that the suffering of all people is a valid concern for a feminist, not merely that of women -- I stand by. Men's suffering is not more important that women's. Women's suffering has been silenced for too long. That does not excuse or justify minimizing or dismissing the pain suffered by male victims of violence.
It is, ultimately, about people. We are not only daughters of fathers, or sisters of brothers, many of us are mothers of sons. Counteracting the societal messages that women are second-class human beings is a job in itself -- I refuse to replace it with a message that men are scum.
However, it is taking up too much of my energy emotionally. I have things I have to do that require me to be more present to the world than I have been since this started. And with it open, I keep revisiting it. I am closing it to let go, to move on. It's an act of self-care.
If you are reading this and you choose to see this as a surrender of some sort, that's okay. As far as I'm concerned, walking away from a stupid fight is smarter than staying mired in it. I've got other things to do and other people to worry about.
Comments disabled for what I think are probably obvious reasons.