Note to Self:

[pat]

If you stop talking to people and withdraw because you feel bad about yourself, and don't want to appear all mopey and whiny in front of others, then other people may think it's something they've done and take it personally. Which may make them feel unloved, even though that is not the truth -- and in fact, because you love them you feel badly about subjecting them to your less than cheery moods.

Communication is a good thing.