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brian1789 that I would post this. I don't necessarily expect anything to go wrong, but if it did, I want to have this on record. I have talked this over with Brian, and normally that would be enough, but some of the things I have listed might get him real grief from my family. And the last thing I would want is people squabbling over this, for goodness' sake. So I thought if I posted in a place that I created, but where they could access it, that might help. (And yes, I know I need a living will, but I never got around to doing it....)
Final Instructions in Case of My Untimely Demise
Everything that can be donated, should be donated. Corneas, heart, liver, pancreas, kidneys... They may not be in enough good shape to donate, but if they are, they should go to someone who can still use them. Sort of an Igor approach.
I wish to be cremated and my remains scattered in the Pacific Ocean.
I personally think that open casket wakes are ghoulish, but these events are for the living, so whatever would give my family the most comfort. I have no objection, but if it were up to me, I might not.
I want a memorial service at St. Timothy's. I want a WOMAN PRIEST as celebrant (MB would be great).
I'm not sure I would get to pick the readings, but I would like Psalm 131 (the child psalm –not 121 "I lift my eyes up to the hills"). If that is considered liturgically incorrect, then 121 would be okay.
Hymns: "Amazing Grace" (could MA sing that?), "Lord of the Dance," "Seek Ye First," "Simple Gifts", "Will the Circle Be Unbroken," "Morning Has Broken", "Be Thou My Vision" "Joyful, Joyful" I have no clue how many are generally used nor which would be liturgically appropriate, but these are my favorite hymns. I would be grateful if either the 9:00 band or the 10:30 band could play.
If they wouldn't mind, I would like my covenant group to do the reception. They do really good work : > Please ask ND to do the flowers for the church -- I like carnations, but anything other than roses would be good.
In lieu of flowers (other than at the church) if people would like to donate to Habitat for Humanity or Second Harvest Food Bank, that would be great.
Given the particulars of my life situation, there will be a lot of possibilities for discomfort at my memorial service, etc. While I wish no one to be excluded, I do wish people to recognize and be respectful of one another's feelings.
Disposition of my very limited material possessions I leave tobrian1789. Please give them good homes to people who want them or at least give them to Goodwill – don't let them just sit around gathering dust. (And please, just give the things to Goodwill -- don't try to itemize them for tax purposes. For my sake.) I know it will be hard, choose someone who can help you with the task. I would ask that you remember my friends and family.... I would like geekchick to have my flower painting (the one I did at Bethel retreat and which hangs above my bed) if she wants it. I would like ND to have the Russian coffee creamer set, in memory of all her hospitality at covenant group over the years. I would like frankenboob to have my cross. I would like JE to have "Abigail's shawl" (she'll know what I mean). I would like my mom to have my good butterfly pin. After my friends and family have gone through my books, I ask that any that nobody is interested in be given to the Mountain View Public Library or Goodwill.
Since I will be in no position to browbeat, yell or pout, I can't enforce any of this. But I just thought I would let you know what I would want.... Or is this the sign of the ultimate control freak, that they plan their own funeral?
brian1789 that I would post this. I don't necessarily expect anything to go wrong, but if it did, I want to have this on record. I have talked this over with Brian, and normally that would be enough, but some of the things I have listed might get him real grief from my family. And the last thing I would want is people squabbling over this, for goodness' sake. So I thought if I posted in a place that I created, but where they could access it, that might help. (And yes, I know I need a living will, but I never got around to doing it....)Final Instructions in Case of My Untimely Demise
Everything that can be donated, should be donated. Corneas, heart, liver, pancreas, kidneys... They may not be in enough good shape to donate, but if they are, they should go to someone who can still use them. Sort of an Igor approach.
I wish to be cremated and my remains scattered in the Pacific Ocean.
I personally think that open casket wakes are ghoulish, but these events are for the living, so whatever would give my family the most comfort. I have no objection, but if it were up to me, I might not.
I want a memorial service at St. Timothy's. I want a WOMAN PRIEST as celebrant (MB would be great).
I'm not sure I would get to pick the readings, but I would like Psalm 131 (the child psalm –not 121 "I lift my eyes up to the hills"). If that is considered liturgically incorrect, then 121 would be okay.
Hymns: "Amazing Grace" (could MA sing that?), "Lord of the Dance," "Seek Ye First," "Simple Gifts", "Will the Circle Be Unbroken," "Morning Has Broken", "Be Thou My Vision" "Joyful, Joyful" I have no clue how many are generally used nor which would be liturgically appropriate, but these are my favorite hymns. I would be grateful if either the 9:00 band or the 10:30 band could play.
If they wouldn't mind, I would like my covenant group to do the reception. They do really good work : > Please ask ND to do the flowers for the church -- I like carnations, but anything other than roses would be good.
In lieu of flowers (other than at the church) if people would like to donate to Habitat for Humanity or Second Harvest Food Bank, that would be great.
Given the particulars of my life situation, there will be a lot of possibilities for discomfort at my memorial service, etc. While I wish no one to be excluded, I do wish people to recognize and be respectful of one another's feelings.
Disposition of my very limited material possessions I leave to
brian1789. Please give them good homes to people who want them or at least give them to Goodwill – don't let them just sit around gathering dust. (And please, just give the things to Goodwill -- don't try to itemize them for tax purposes. For my sake.) I know it will be hard, choose someone who can help you with the task. I would ask that you remember my friends and family.... I would like geekchick to have my flower painting (the one I did at Bethel retreat and which hangs above my bed) if she wants it. I would like ND to have the Russian coffee creamer set, in memory of all her hospitality at covenant group over the years. I would like frankenboob to have my cross. I would like JE to have "Abigail's shawl" (she'll know what I mean). I would like my mom to have my good butterfly pin. After my friends and family have gone through my books, I ask that any that nobody is interested in be given to the Mountain View Public Library or Goodwill.Since I will be in no position to browbeat, yell or pout, I can't enforce any of this. But I just thought I would let you know what I would want.... Or is this the sign of the ultimate control freak, that they plan their own funeral?
