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[pat]

Interaction with my middle child:

me: "That video game music is seriously annoying."
D: "Yes, yes it is really annoying."

D: "Oh, wait, do you want me to turn the music off?"
me: "Yes, thank you." (I was just about to ask him that, actually.)

One thing D is teaching me is how to ask directly for things, rather than hint. (As I said, I was about to ask him to turn it down.) I was quite pleased, though, that he sensed my discomfort and was able to make the logical step to asking about it. This shows increased social awareness, which is good. I don't want him to try and mind read, but having him be more aware of nuance and social clues will help him down the road.

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[patgreene.livejournal.com]

For me, I think a lot of it was growing up female in the South. We were not *supposed* to ask for things directly. I'm working on it, though.

[tenacious-snail.livejournal.com]

(nod)(nod)(nod)(nod)(nod)(nod)

There are some areas in which I am good at stating my needs. Others where I am not.

Sometimes I try to do the subtle-and-veiled thing (I especially notice this with people with whom I want to not flirt with me or not hit on me), and if they don't pick up on it after several attempts, I sometimes do what feels like whomping them with a sledge hammer.

Bug Yay! for D.