Instead, even though it is unsettling, I also find being around her to be strangely comforting. She is dying -- so must we all. [...] He is a man of integrity and great strength. He is allowing his wife to leave this earth with dignity and love. He is maintaining normality and calmness for his children, yet not pretending that everything is okay. Today he said to me, "People die. It's part of life. I want them [his kids] to understand that."
Impending death has that way of focusing us on what is here and now and valued. It sounds like an experience of deep genuine honesty and presence, and such things are truly gifts.
I am very sorry for the loss that your family will soon go through. But given that the loss will happen, I am glad that you have been able to share in this profound experience. And it is good likewise that your brother-in-law is taking on new mantles of maturity in this time of greatest need for their children.
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Impending death has that way of focusing us on what is here and now and valued. It sounds like an experience of deep genuine honesty and presence, and such things are truly gifts.
I am very sorry for the loss that your family will soon go through. But given that the loss will happen, I am glad that you have been able to share in this profound experience. And it is good likewise that your brother-in-law is taking on new mantles of maturity in this time of greatest need for their children.